Would you like to find out what happened at school and work without asking What did you do today?

The High-Low-Happy game helps us talk about the good, bad and interesting bits of our days – and get comfort or reassurance without needing to ask for it.

Everyone shares their High-Low-Happy by listing three things about their day. It’s a natural conversation starter and you’ll find the questions and answers flow pretty easily between each person’s turn:

  • My high was… something that made you feel great, or that was especially exciting. For example, My high was that I got to deliver the class lunch orders, or My high was that I didn’t get any red lights driving to work this morning.
  • My low was… something that was disappointing or made you feel sad. For example, My low was my friends didn’t play with me, or My low was that petrol is up 10 cents just when I needed to fill the car. Some days you might not have a real low – but that’s worth talking about too.
  • My happy was… something that made you laugh or smile or feel happy inside.

For example, My happy was that dad bought us ice creams when he picked us up today, or My happy was that everybody got ready on time this morning.

Light and bright

Like all our dinner games, as an adult you can keep the tone light and avoid getting too judgmental or feeling you must ‘solve’ every Low that comes up. High-Low-Happy creates a safe space for everyone to talk about emotions without it being a big deal and you’re going to learn a lot about your family by playing it.

If your son says his Happy is that his teacher was sick today, for instance, ask why that made them happy rather than assume you’re raising a rotten little ghoul who enjoys other people’s misery.  Given the chance to explain, he might tell you it’s because the substitute teacher made them laugh all day.

Note: we all have days when we just don’t feel like talking.  Don’t force it.  Switch to a different game or topic, or just let the reluctant child (or adult!) skip their turn that night and use your intuition to decide if you follow up with them later.

Variation: sometimes it’s hard to distinguish between a high and a happy. You can substitute Interesting for High to make it clearer.

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UnYucky kid Seraya shows off her Dinner Dice (and her apron!)

Download the game choosers

To help you build a regular dinner game and conversation habit, we have a couple of fun ways for you and the kids to choose which one you will play each night.

Print out the Dinner Dice or Chatterbox Chooser templates (they’re free in the UnYucky Shop) and have the kids cut, fold or paste them into shape.

If you want to include games from this book that didn’t fit on the dice or the chatterbox, just use the templates to make your own blank version and write the favourites in yourselves.

Another way is to have your kids write down the names of the games on slips of paper and put them in a bowl as a lucky dip each night.

Club Flawsome

If you like where this is heading and you want more where it came from, sign up for Club Flawsome – because your family, like mine, is a little bit flawed and a whole lot awesome, right?

As a Club Flawsome member you get a monthly meal plan and shopping list so you can get great meals on the table fast any night of the week, without adding What’s for dinner? to your evening chaos. You get access to the tried and tested Dinner Grinner recipes, which set a cap on prep time, cost per head, amount of mess, and number of ingredients.

You also get mindset support in videos and podcasts direct from me and special guests from my network of educators, childhood specialists, cooks, and other mums (and the occasional dad too!)

There’s more as well, like permanent discounts on UnYucky shop items for Flawsome members, AND a free copy of The Flawsome Family Mealbook when it’s released in November.

Not ready to commit? Enjoy the book as soon as it’s released (and be VIP listed for an exclusive preview chapter and recipe index) by pre-ordering the Flawsome Family Mealbook right now.

Can’t wait to see you there!

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by Bec Time to read: 3 min